From Heard
Robin, Alex sat down and shared what's been on their heart. These are their own words and feelings, just translated so they could land gently. It took courage for them to do this. Read it knowing that.
From Alex
A letter to Robin
I've been thinking about you a lot. Two years is a long time to be quiet, and I want you to know the silence was never because I stopped caring. It was because I didn't know how to reach back.
When things got hard, when dad was sick, I felt alone. That hurt. But I'm not angry at you. I think I was waiting for something, maybe a sign that you still wanted me in your life, and I realize now you might have been waiting for the same thing from me.
What I miss is how close we used to be. I miss my sibling. I still love you, and I never stopped.
I'd like to hear from you. Not an explanation or an apology, just you. I want to know you still care about me too.
What Alex needs to keep this going
- ·I need to know that you still want me in your life.
- ·I'd like us to find a way to check in, even if it starts small.
What you're both working toward
You both want to find your way back to each other, without the distance that crept in.
What you share
Both of you have spent two years missing each other and not knowing how to break the silence. Neither of you is angry. Both of you still love each other and have been waiting, unsure if the other still cared. The distance came from fear and uncertainty, not from a lack of love. You both want the same thing: to be close again.
What might help
- One of you sends a short text or voice message this week, just to say hello.
- Schedule a phone call or video chat within the next two weeks, even if it's only fifteen minutes.
- Agree that this first conversation doesn't need to resolve everything. It just needs to happen.